Stuff! Why do we always want more?




Humans are materialistic by nature, from birth we are encouraged to acquire things; toys, books, clothing, cars etc.  We are conditioned to believe that possessions will enrich our quality of life and ultimately define our place in society.  We have posted countless bogs on the minimalist philosophy, and have tried to answer the timeless questions of do we really need so much stuff? And, how can we let go of our stuff?  Many of you who responded to our blog posts felt that our relationship with our things or stuff had nothing to do with their practicality, and we would tend to agree.  How many pairs of shoes do you really need? A person who likes collecting shoes does so not because they need them, but more because they like how they feel when they wear them.  I have a friend who works in finance, who believes her shoes are a source of power, when she walks into the room they help her make the statement “I am here and I am fierce”.  Those are her words not mine.  I can understand this entirely.

Last year we posted the blog “Do You Really Want Your House to Catch Fire”, essentially the message was don’t own so much clutter so that you would be happy to see your house catch fire.  This blog supported the minimalist way of living, and that organizing was not de-cluttering.  The question is when does the stuff we accumulate become unwanted clutter?  Or does it ever?  According to some of our followers NEVER.  A woman who privately messaged the Oasis Movement “Agnes”, insisted her material belongings define her and is what will remain of her when she dies, as she doesn’t have any children. Another follower cannot bring herself to get rid of her old clothing, even though much of is no longer fashionable or fits.  She says she grew up in a time where you kept things “Just in case”; my own parents are like this so, I can sympathize.

Whatever the reason, getting rid of your stuff is not always easy.   There are some who are, or become more psychologically and more emotionally attached to their things. These people experience anxiety or trauma when asked to get rid of their “stuff”; their things do not represent success and social standing.  Their attachment is almost visceral.  If you or anyone you know exhibits this kind of behaviour you should seek the advice of a medical practitioner.

If and when you are able to part with your stuff, remember the Oasis Clothing Bank accepts not only gently used clothing but small household and kitchen appliances.  Visit our website for a complete list. We offer FREE pick up service in the greater Toronto area, or drop off your donations at one of our drop off bins. or call us at 416 751 0553.
Be Well
Oasis Movement

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